Divorce Recovery
& Family Resilience
Programs

Who it’s for

• Separated/divorcing parents who want a practical, skills-based path to reduce conflict and keep children out of the middle.

• Works for low- to high-conflict dynamics; suitable alongside mediation or a parenting plan.

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Structure & Flow

• Intake & Goal-Setting (1 session): Current pain points, parenting plan review, ground rules.

• Core Skills Track (6–8 sessions): Weekly, structured, with brief homework between sessions.

• Application & Maintenance (2–4 sessions): Apply skills to real issues (exchanges, school, holidays), finalize routines.

• Format: Individual parent sessions (parallel coaching), joint sessions added only when appropriate and safe.

• Boundaries: This is coaching, not couples therapy or forensic evaluation.

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Skills You’ll Learn

• Calm Communication

  • BIFF Response® (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm)

  • EAR Statements (Empathy, Attention, Respect)

  • Neutral tone, written protocols for texts/email

• Decision-Making Under Stress

  • Options → Criteria → Proposal method

  • Time-outs and cool-down procedures

• Consistent Two-Home Routines

  • Hand-off checklists, school-night playbooks, holiday plans

  • Shared “minimum standards” (sleep, homework, devices)

• Boundary & Expectation Management

  • Role clarity (parent vs. partner vs. co-manager)

  • Limits on rehashing the past; agenda-based meetings

• Conflict De-escalation

  • Triggers mapping; replacing blame with specific, doable requests

  • Safety and civility rules for all communications

• Child-Centered Practices

  • Age-appropriate language scripts

  • How to avoid triangulation, loyalty binds, and “messenger child”

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What Parents Can Expect

• Short, focused sessions with templates, scripts, and checklists you can implement immediately.

• Progress checkpoints every 3–4 sessions with measurable goals (response time, tone, missed hand-offs, school notes).

• Coordination—when needed—with mediators, therapists, and schools to align plans.

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Benefits for Parents

• Lower stress & fewer flare-ups: Reliable tools to keep discussions on-track.

• Faster decisions: Clear proposals and timelines reduce stalemates.

• Predictability: Agreed routines shrink last-minute negotiating and ambiguity.

• Professional tone: Emails and texts that stand up well if ever reviewed in legal contexts.

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Benefits for Children (the core purpose)

• Stability: Consistent routines between homes; smoother transitions.

• Emotional safety: Reduced exposure to conflict and triangulation.

• Better functioning: Improved sleep, school engagement, and behavior.

• Secure attachment: Parents model respectful problem-solving, reinforcing a sense of safety in both homes.

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Outcomes We Track

• Communication quality (neutral tone, BIFF compliance, response times)

• Hand-off reliability and schedule adherence

• Child indicators (teacher feedback, transition difficulty ratings, behavior logs)

• Resolution rate and time-to-agreement on common disputes

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Logistics

• Duration: Typical core track 6–8 sessions; extend as needed.

• Format: In-person or secure virtual. Parallel parent coaching is the default; joint sessions are added judiciously.

• Documentation: Attendance and progress summaries available on request (non-forensic).

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